Jazz legend Wynton Marsalis, born on this day in 1961, on what makes music so magical
I feel this way about writing, too.
startup enthusiast, artstech nerd, product and people fan. thinker, doer, adventurer and a total softie for sf/paris/baltimore.
One of my oldest crusades is against the distinction between thought and feeling, which is really the basis of all anti-intellectual views: the heart and the head, thinking and feeling, fantasy and judgment … and I don’t believe it’s true… . I have the impression that thinking is a form of feeling and that feeling is a form of thinking.
— Susan Sontag (via artisticalyhaze)
Mountain biking, city strolls: his and hers.
If you have been following me on tumblr you know that for nearly a year, I have been experimenting with testing a new habit every month. In July I took a break from my one-habit-a-month quest: I went on vacation, saw family and friends, explored, reflected, relaxed.
Then August came before I knew it (I may have embraced the vacation mindset a little too much), and while I usually know what habit I will attempt to cultivate in advance, this time I fell behind. A week into August and I had only vague ideas about habits I might like to explore. I was struggling to find a habit to concentrate on, I lamented to my boyfriend. And I’d already missed a whole week!
Or, he reasoned: maybe I’m your August habit.
He was joking, but only half joking, and in many ways he was right.
Going from being single to being in a relationship necessarily impacts your life’s rituals and habits: you are simultaneously cultivating a new habit (building the foundation for a relationship; creating a shared space and life between you and another person,) and reevaluating all your current, existing habits at the same time. You have to be ready for the sort of change that comes with that.
This was particularly striking for me: fiercely (perhaps stubbornly) independent, I had until recently been actively dating, but not seriously so. (And documenting all of it.) I was even introduced by a friend as a “dating expert” at one point - and yes, I cringed at the title, too.
Somewhere in there I met my boyfriend, and in August I surprised myself by looking forward to the changes that being in a serious relationship had brought already, and those it would no doubt continue to bring going forward.
There were the little habits and rituals to consider: how often to see each other (& when); where to eat & what to eat; when to go to bed and where. And also the bigger things: beginning to think in two’s, investing in learning about the other’s hobbies and interests, sharing more of one’s time, energy, attention, and care with and for another person — these all became part of my daily rituals, too.
In the process, I evaluated my own quirks, tendencies, and zones of comfort, and how they fit in with with my SO’s: when you share more moments than not with someone, you see where your rhythm naturally overlays with theirs, where it does not, and where to adjust and meet them in between. In the process, you see which habits you want to keep (in my case, carving out creative time for illustrating and writing), which you will compromise happily over (your apartment or mine), which habits you want to newly cultivate because your SO’s habits are better than yours (exercising more, hydrating more), and quite naturally which habits you’d like to encourage in your SO, too (applying sunscreen daily, arriving at the airport unnecessarily early…etc.).
So in August, these were the habits I was testing, navigating, mulling over and thinking about. There was no single, particular habit to work on day by day, but an overall mind shift to cultivate instead: a general but active awareness of how to grow with and alongside someone else, not just myself. And that’s a habit I don’t plan on giving up any time soon.
For September, I’m returning to my regularly programmed habit experimenting. As part of that, I’m working on a little project called the Listening Project. It’s nebulous but promising — stay tuned.
This fantastic post from Ximena Vengoechea has nothing to do with Linux or technology (although I think some Linux development is done by people looking to unwind) and everything to do with leading a balanced life, which is also pretty important:
"Most importantly, pick projects that energize you. For me it’s creative projects that keep me motivated and fulfilled. For someone else it might be starting a family or building a business, exercising or undertaking culinary pursuits. Whatever it is, don’t force it if you don’t like it: it’s supposed to be fun. If it isn’t, switch gears."
Thanks for the shoutout!
You don’t own your brand. A brand isn’t a logo or packaging. It’s a gut feeling. And when two people have the same gut feeling, you have a brand.
Also see Malcolm Gladwell, Seth Godin, Dan Pink, and other thinkers on how and why we define ourselves through brands.
it’s fundamentally about the emotional connection.
Facebook’s UX is so good when it comes to the details.
Wish one friend happy birthday and as soon as you hit Enter, the cursor jumps to the next friend’s birthday to leave them a message as well.
Of course all relationships are not made equal, but Facebook makes it so quick and easy to leave a message that even if you weren’t planning on it, you lose nothing by having them set it up for you, just in case.