1. Why we date (Hint: it’s not always for marriage)

    This is the third and final post in a series of posts on dating in the Internet age. You can read the first and second posts here.

    Most of my friends are active, if casual, daters.

    My startup founder friend dates to prove that he has a life outside of his job. (He doesn’t.)

    Another friend goes straight to work for dating: she has an unofficial policy of dating only her co-workers, always in secret. (“It’s hotter that way.” Also: messier.)

    Then there is the friend who has decided she is in search of A Lover. Not a boyfriend, not a play date, not merely a hook up, but a lover. You are either Lover material or you are not; she will know when she meets you.

    Read the full and final post in my series on dating in the 21st century here

  2. I don’t know if I’m ready for a reblog yet. I mean I just met your blog. Like, where is this going?

    — Tumblr Problems (via howitzerliterarysociety)

  3. cedrikaprovencher:


    i feel like ‘restaurant’ shouldnt be spelled like that

    les anglophones volent des mots à d’autres langues puis chialent parce qu’ils ne sont pas orthographiés comme ils le voudraient

    haha Merci peanut gallery-mdr

    (Source: landorus)

  4. tumblropenarts:

Phil Winter


    Phil Winter


  5. He referenced a line from Turgenev a few times, from the suicide note of a character named Nejdanov: ‘I could not simplify myself.’ ‘That really struck home,’ Matthiessen said. I knew exactly what he means.’ He paused and then whispered it again. ‘I could not simplify myself,’ and then added, ‘That’s always been my goal.’

    — Jeff Himmelman interviews Peter Matthiessen and recounts his rich and fascinating life. Himmelman’s article was published April 3rd, two days before Matthiessen’s death at 86.

  6. A good writer needs to know what it’s like, and “it” can be just about anything. We have far too many writers today who have never ridden a horse, or fired a gun, or sharpened a knife, or fought with their fists, or been shot at. And so on and so on.


    The science fiction and fantasy writer Gene Wolf, in an interview in the Barnes and Noble Review.

    I have only done two of these, but I will keep this in mind. 

  7. There’s this unbelievable bias and prejudice against quote-unquote good-looking people, that they can’t be in pain or they can’t have rough lives or be deep or interesting. They can’t be any of the things that you long to play as an actor. I’m getting to play those parts now and loving it. When I was a teen idol, I was so goddamn pretty I wouldn’t have taken myself seriously.


    Rob Lowe, keepin’ it classy.

    This guy.

    -NYT Mag interview by Taffy Brodesser-Anker

  8. I like your SASS.


    (via designerdirtytalk)

    Clever new tumblr. Would be even better if it were based on real  conversations overheard between designers dating.